Solitude Is Bliss: Rediscovering Peace After Divorce

Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love

Jennifer Weiner

You’re in the right place if you feel lost after a divorce.

Whether you’ve already been separated for a long period of time or your divorce was sudden and unexpected, this process and its aftermath is never easy.

You have to begin thinking about your life in a way you never thought you would, which can be scary and upsetting. You might be moving to a new home, or even starting a new job that’s better for your new situation. It’s a lot to go through!

Know that whatever the reason, you made the right choice for yourself and your family. Even if it was incredibly difficult.

Take it one day at a time and remember that there’s only one way to go from here.

Achieve emotional peace after your divorce with these 5 steps

Divorce is often a huge source of emotional turmoil. Even if you and your partner were separated before your divorce, it takes time to rebuild your life and independence. Divorce can leave us feeling angry, resentful, and sad – and that’s on a good day. It might not seem like it, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Regain your self-worth and happiness with the following tips.

Lean on your friends and family, and be unapologetic about it

You had their love and support long before you were married. Rediscover the beauty of platonic relationships by spending as much time as possible with your friends and family. They know you better than anyone, and will always be able to lift your moods during moments of stress.

Put your body first

Now is the perfect time to reconnect with your body. You’ll likely have more free time, which you’ll be able to commit to a healthy lifestyle. Treat yourself to healthy, unprocessed meals that will leave you feeling nourished and energized. Discover an exercise routine and schedule that you enjoy. A healthy lifestyle releases natural endorphins that help you feel happy and positive.

Embrace your new life as much as possible

Now is the time to get excited about the new life you can build for yourself. Create a new environment that nurtures acceptance and change. This could be as simple as redecorating, or as big as looking into a new career. You don’t need to cut all the ties with your past – nor should you – but embrace the new avenues that you’re now able to pursue.

Find your purpose, no matter how long it takes

Thinking of the bigger picture is a great way to forget about the worries of the present. Engaging in a mindfulness practice will help you find a purpose and nurture your spiritual growth. You’ll begin to feel peaceful and optimistic about life, because you know that time always heals the pain.

Look to the future

The best way to not get caught up in the past is to look to the future. Once you’ve reached a stage where you lose feelings of resentment and anger towards the past, you can begin to feel optimistic about the future. Whether you devote yourself to family, professional endeavors, or open your heart to love again, the future will begin to look bright.

The road to inner peace can be bumpy and filled with twists. Remember to be kind to yourself. You will make it out stronger and wiser than before.